Uni life has its highs – the nights out, freedom, lie-ins, and the occasional 9am seminar you actually make it to. But let’s be real; it’s also a time of change, pressure and uncertainty. That’s why looking out for each other matters more than ever.
As we get closer to Mental Health Awareness Week, it’s the perfect time to talk about how we can all play a part in supporting the people around us. Because sometimes, the best support doesn’t come from professionals or policies – it comes from your friends. Whether it’s checking in after a tough week or just being a consistent presence, here’s how to show up for the people you care about.
1. Look Out For The Little Things
Not everyone who’s struggling will say so. In fact, most won’t. That’s why it helps to keep an eye out for the subtle changes in your friends’ behaviour:
- Are they suddenly withdrawn or avoiding social plans?
- Do they seem more irritable, anxious or have lower energy levels than usual?
- Are they skipping lectures or falling behind?
You don’t need to be a mind reader – just someone who notices and cares enough to ask.
“You’ve seemed a bit off lately – everything alright?”
2. Ask Twice, and Really Listen
We’re all guilty of the casual “how are you?” that we half-expect a “yeah, fine” in return too. But if you feel like something’s not right, ask again.
When someone feels like they’ve been heard, it can ease the weight they’re carrying, even just for a moment.
Neo Tip: You don’t need all the answers. Just listening without judgement is a huge act of support.
3. Create Space for Real Conversations
You don’t always need a ‘deep and meaningful’ chat to help someone open up. Often, the best conversations happen in chill settings:
- A walk to the shop
- Late night kitchen chats
- Sitting out in the courtyard evening sun.
When you make space for honest conversations – especially without pressure – you’re letting your friends know it’s okay not to be okay.
Neo Tip: The open-air atrium and roof terrace are great spots for decompressing and catching up one-on-one, especially when the flat feels a bit busy.
4. Respect Boundaries but Stay Close
If a friend pulls away, it doesn’t always mean they want you to back off. Sometimes, they just need time, but knowing you’re still there can make all the difference.
- Drop them a DM every now and again
- Don’t be afraid to share a funny meme
- Invite them – especially if you think they’ll say no
Knowing someone thought to ask, even if you’re not up for it, can make the world feel a little less heavy.
5. Encourage Them to Get Support
If your friend is struggling with their mental health, gently guide them towards professional support – whether that’s university services, a GP or someone they trust.
And if they live at Neo Students, let them know that Lara, our Wellbeing Officer, is here for drop-ins and confidential chats. No pressure. No judgement. Just support when it’s needed.
- Email: lara@neostudents.com
- Drop-ins: Every Thursday, 12-2pm at the Wellness Suite (Palamon Courtyard)
6. Look After You, Too
Supporting others is important – but don’t pour from an empty cup. Look after your own mental health by:
- Setting boundaries
- Reaching out when you’re struggling
- Getting enough sleep and rest
- Talking to someone if you feel overwhelmed
It’s nobody’s responsibility to fix everything – just being present and kind makes a world of difference.
7. Move Your Body, Clear Your Mind
When things feel overwhelming, sometimes getting moving is one of the best things you can do – for you and your friends. Exercise might not solve everything, but it can help ease anxiety, lift your mood and create a sense of routine when life feels messy.
And it doesn’t have to be intense. A light gym session or a walk around the block can help reset your headspace. Even better, invite a friend. You don’t need to talk to be a support – just being side by side can be its own kind of support.
Neo Tip: With two fully equipped gyms on site, it’s easy to get moving without having to go far. Whether you’re hitting the weights, jumping on the treadmill or just trying to shake off a stressful day, our gyms are open and accessible to residents and completely pressure-free.
Mental Health Awareness Week 2025 – Let’s Make It Count
Mental Health Awareness Week (12th – 18th May 2025) is all about raising awareness of student mental health and celebrating the power of community, kindness and connection. This year, let’s commit to being there for one another in big and small ways.
Whether it’s a mate, a course friend, your flatmate or someone you barely know, check in, show up and create space for honest conversations. Because sometimes, the most powerful words are simply:
“Here if you need me”
